Running From Reality!
November 23th, 2015
People handle Discouragement, Difficulty and Disappointment in different ways. I have listed several common responses to these emotional hurdles that we all face in this life:
The First Response Is To Be An Insulator.
According to 1 Samuel 10:22, when Israel had come together to anoint their first king they could not find Saul. The verse says, “Therefore they enquired of the LORD further, if the man should yet come thither. And the LORD answered, Behold, he hath hid himself among the stuff.” Shortly after Adam and Eve had sinned in the garden, the Bible says in Genesis 3:8, “And they heard the voice of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day: and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God amongst the trees of the garden.”
When struggling with a disappointment or a setback, the common response of an Insulator is to wrap himself or herself up in such a disguise that no one can access his or her heart and hurt them again. Just like Saul and Adam and Eve, they believe the lie that it is easier to hide than it is to face their responsibilities. The Insulators hide within layers of emotional armor in an attempt to prevent anyone from ever seeing who they really are. They go to great lengths to wrap themselves in insulation. They refuse to risk emotional intimacy because of the pain of past hurts.
The Second Response Is To Be An Isolator.
This group of hurt people break my heart the most because the Bible says in Genesis 2:18, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Relationship and fellowship is not a luxury; it is a necessity.
The common response of an Isolator when they are struggling with emotional darkness and difficulty is to Isolate themselves to avoid the possibility of rejection! Unlike the Insulators who engage in relationship, but beneath layers of protective padding, the Isolator may stand before you, but it is clear that they are not with you.
The Isolators have left their battered heart at home, removed from their daily routine, protected from interaction. Like a patient in the intensive care unit, the Isolator’s emotional health may be so fragile that they do not want to risk taking their pain off of life support. Isolators feel safest in a perpetual state of suspended dislocation. They have the misconception that Isolation and solitariness is freedom, when it is actually their prison cell! Their Isolation protects them from What They Fear but it also Isolates them from What They Need. This dangerous response to life’s difficulties is really people phobia.
The Third Response Is To Be An Inhibitors.
Ruth 1:19-21, “So they two went until they came to Bethlehem. And it came to pass, when they were come to Bethlehem, that all the city was moved about them, and they said, Is this Naomi ?” And she said unto them, Call me not Naomi, call me Mara: for the Almighty hath dealt very bitterly with me. I went out full, and the LORD hath brought me home again empty: why then call ye me Naomi, seeing the LORD hath testified against me, and the Almighty hath afflicted me?”
They asked her Who she was, but she answered How she was. She let what she went through change and redefine her identity. An Inhibitor’s common response to the disappointments of life or the wounding of others is a sense of pessimistic frustration that is unparalleled. Enough is never enough to make up for what they have lost, what they have endured, and what they continue to carry around inside of their wounded soul. They live trapped in a perpetual state of frustration, regardless of what they attain or accomplish.
Like pouring water into a rusty bucket, there is no compliment or encouragement that stays with them because they leak out through the holes of Human Hurts and Difficult Disappointments that have never been healed in their soul! They tend to try and find solace by Making Money, Achieving Another Promotion, Reinventing Their Appearance, Hiding In Hobbies or Avoiding Relationships.
These are not bad people, just people responding badly to life’s Discouragements , Difficulties and Disappointments. These kind of people will eventually end up divorced, out of church, or at the very least, never satisfied as they continue looking in vain for a way to escape their unpleasant reality. Let me give all the Insulators, Isolators and Inhibitors some candid advice:
1. Please understand that your absence increases the load and burdens of all those left behind by your emotional withdrawal.
2. Please realize that your method of escaping from life’s responsibilities and relationships breaks ties that may never be repairable.
3. Please recognize that escapism, while appearing to offer relief for your emotional hurts, is in reality robbing your soul of God’s sufficient grace. Only God’s grace can heal your hurts.
4. Please return to your friends of a lifetime and the fellowship of God’s people – you're needed and loved.